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The Spirituality of Driving

Friday, February 19th, 2010

The Spirituality of Driving

Special Stage one Rally Tennessee 2005

In his book, The Power of Now, one of the examples Eckhart Tolle uses of people who naturally live in the moment are people who drive race cars. Being in the moment is how he defines a spiritual process.

Having driven in automobile races and rallies, I understand what he is saying. In order to be competitive and to drive safely, you need to have your mind clearly focused on the task at hand when driving a race car. If you are thinking about what you did last week, or what you plan to do after the race, you will loose time on the track and in the worst case, you will crash the car.

I have also found that driving off road makes me focus on the moment almost as much as racing. While the time pressure is not always there in the off road environment, the need to be clearly alert to my surroundings is. I have to know where my tires are at all times and be keenly aware of the amount of traction available. I can’t do any of that if my mind is distracted or focused elsewhere.

Often as we drive our daily commutes, we do not have this keen focus to the task of driving. We sometimes put driving on mental auto pilot and allow our minds to wander through all sorts of thoughts – some that make us happy and others that bring us grief.

We can however choose to use any time behind the wheel as a deeply spiritual time. By simply focusing on driving the car and paying attention to the surroundings, we can bring our focus in to the eternal now and block out thoughts of past and future.

Often it is easier to bring back attention to driving by taking a different route. For example, instead of taking the interstate, take the old US highway that parallels it. It may take a few minutes longer but just notice the feeling of release that you feel as you look at the scenery and focus on the details of driving the car.

Even a familiar road can bring release if you focus on feeling the contact of the wheels to the pavement through the steering wheel. Listen to the sounds of the engine and the whirr of the gears turning making the car go forward.

I like driving my Jeep because it gives me a great feeling of being in contact with the road. A quieter car does not give me this same feeling of connectedness. I also get this feeling form driving sports cars whose stiff suspension keeps me in touch with the road surface.

It is easy to make driving a spiritual experience. Just focus on the things that are happening right now in the moment. Forget about all the things in the past that you are driving away from. Stop worrying about the potential future that may or may not happen when you get there. Just focus your attention to driving the car right now where you are.

Rich Dad Poor Dad – book review

Tuesday, September 22nd, 2009

Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki – Review

While I have heard the principles of Rich Dad Poor Dad discussed in many places over the years, I had never actually read the book. I mostly assumed I already knew what it said. What Kiyoski calls arrogance that leads to ignorance.

I don’t remember what got me curious, but after reading a reference to Kiyosaki and Rich Dad Poor Dad, I wanted to know how it was that he had two dads. Eventually the curiosity got the best of me and I headed over to the book store and picked up a copy. I figured I could at least use it to impress my coaching clients since I did not really expect to learn anything about making money from this book.

Boy was I wrong! This book was a real epiphany for me. I have been having a lot of these lately. I suppose it is evidence of my becoming more in vibrational alignment with my virtual fortune as Ester Hicks would say.

So, if you are curious like I was about how he had two dads, I will let out that little secret. The “poor dad” was his actual father whom he lived with. His father was not exactly poor by most standards. He was a well paid educator with a good middle class job. The “rich dad” was the father of his best friend Mike. Mike’s dad was a businessman who was just starting his empire. While Mike’s dad probably had less to show for his efforts in the early days, his philosophy of life led him on great wealth.

Robert learned much about life from both men.

Looking at my own life and my mentors, I see that although my own father was very successful in his career as an engineer, he still had the philosophy of specialization offered by Robert’s poor dad. Even though my grandfather owned his own business, he was more of a solo artist and not really into the business building philosophy of Mike’s dad.

I was taught from a very early age that if you wanted something done right, you had to do it yourself. Over the years, I have become very good at several specialties such as engineering project management, workplace safety systems, and machinery maintenance. While I am good at managing a team, I have always had the idea that I could do everything better myself. When working on my own time, I prefer to work alone as I get more done.

From reading this book, I finally realize why so many “smart” kids do not do well financially and the C students become rich. The first reason is that the school systems focus on creating good employees. They create students who learn to follow the rules and don’t cause trouble. While I was a bit of an exception to the not causing trouble part of that as I became Valedictorian of my high school, I was better at conforming to the rules than breaking them.

The school systems do not teach financial skills. While I had plenty of courses on chemistry, physics, English, and mathematics, I never had a class on money management in high school. Even in college, I studied general economics and engineering economics, but I never really learned how wealth was created. I just learned how to be a good employee and help corporations make money from my engineering skills.

My formal education totally failed me in teaching me how to produce wealth.

I did once have the opportunity to learn about wealth, but I let that opportunity pass me by. I never realized what an opportunity it was until after reading this book. I remember that while I was in my freshman year at Ole Miss, I spent a lot of time with my Grandfather. He had what I would now call a benevolent sponsor. This man owned several businesses and thousands of acres of land in North Mississippi. He gave my granddad a shop to play in and work on his inventions.

He saw how I worked with my grandfather and seemed to like me. I did not realize at the time he was offering me an opportunity to learn like the one Mike’s dad gave Robert in the book. I totally missed what he was trying to give me.

In the book, Kiyosaki explains how he was groomed to understand the various aspects of businesses by working at various businesses owned my Mike’s dad. Often the work was without pay. The only reward was the education received. This is one of the principles taught in the book – “work to learn not for pay.” Kiyosaky goes on to describe how he took a series of jobs after college that taught him various skills that enabled him to build his business empire. Mike apparently did very well also in managing and continuing to grow his fathers businesses.

Kiyosaki learned the importance of education from his poor dad. He realized that lack of education is what holds most people back from great wealth. So thankfully for his readers, he has decided to build a business out of teaching people how to become rich or at least more financially aware.

As, I mentioned earlier, the primary concept that has been my big epiphany is that of using the skill of others to help me. As I learned more about business, I realized that there are skills that I just don’t have that I need to make money. I had set out to learn them but even though I am a fast learner, I will be too old to care by the time I learn all I need to know to do it all myself. I need to learn to take advantage of specialists who do know these things.

I have had to make some real emotional decisions as I realize that there are people much younger than me who already know what I need to know. Deciding that I can learn from these “young punks” is an ongoing struggle, but my previous spiritual work has prepaved the road for this. I have learned to value all people and not prejudge them based on some stereotype or other prejudice.

The most important concept I found in the book however is his redefining of an asset and a liability. In my corporate engineering work, I defined all capital and physical goods as assets. These were things that had tangible value and could be sold. I thought of my car and my boat and my house as assets. After all, I could list these as collateral for a loan.

Kiyosaki however defines an asset as something that brings in income. Houses, cars and boats cost money to maintain and operate so they are really liabilities.

Kiyosaki’s wealth building strategy is one of building assets. He continually adds to his collection of income producing items. He is not worried about saving for retirement as he continues to build a passive income generating system. He can now do what he enjoys which seems to be teaching. Naturally he has found a way to turn his love of teaching into an income producing system as well.

For a while, I worked with a client who was a house flipper. He would buy a run down house and we would fix it up together. Then he sold it. While this was a way to get income, in the end he had lost his asset by selling the house. Had he chosen to rent out the house he could have had a steady income. Or, had he traded up the property he could have continued to grow his business as explained in the book. This particular client eventually returned to his job as a truck driver and I got a bad taste for house flipping. I now see how he could have had much better results had we both had a better understanding of how the money system works.

In chapter eight, he covers the major obstacles to success and how to overcome them. While the list is familiar to anyone who has studied self help literature, his recommendations on how to deal with them hit me differently.

In the section on dealing with fear, he acknowledges that we all have fears. However, most of us never face them. Instead we avoid what we fear. We create protective systems to help us avoid what we fear. I saw this in the corporate world and thought it must be the right way to get ahead. However, as explained in the book, even the CEO of a major corporation is still an employee. A high paid employee, but still an employee. It takes a different mind set to be a business owner or investor.

Facing my fear of loosing money will be my biggest obstacle in implementing what I have learned in the book. I have gotten very good and minimizing risks in my career. At one time, one of my job duties was risk management. I got very good at eliminating risks for the company. However as Kiyosaki says, there is always risk. We just have to learn to manage the risk.

When I read that paragraph, I remember riding in the co driver seat of a rally race car. We were sliding toward a tree after my driver entered a corner just a little hot for the low traction conditions. After he recovered control of the car, he told me that rally racing was all about risk management. You had to go fast even if there was risk of sliding into a tree.

Another obstacle to success that Kiyosaki talks about is dealing with cynicism. In school, you don’t get to be valedictorian unless you are good at pleasing people. If teachers and principles like you, you will get better grades and get the benefit of the doubt when you make an occasional mistake. So I learned to take cynicism very seriously. I always wanted to be a perfectionist. I learned this both in school and at church. What I wanted was not important. I was here to make other people happy.

My recent spiritual awakening has reversed my perspective on this. Now that I have learned to love myself and understand that nothing is more important than that I feel good about myself, I can now face the cynics. Most of them have no idea what they are talking about anyway. He gives several examples in his book about how people have backed out of deals that could have made them a lot of money because they listened to a totally uninformed cynic. It is always easier to find potential fault in something than it is to actually build a system that works. I intend to work on creating my own systems from now on and see how they work. At least as soon as I get over that fear I just mentioned.

Another obstacle he addresses is laziness. He defines laziness in a different way than I have ever read before. He says people who busy themselves to avoid a task are lazy. He says people often find excuses not to do what would make them successful because they don’t have time due to too many tasks like mowing the yard and doing their jobs. Even though most people would see these people as busy and productive, he calls them lazy because they do not focus their efforts on income producing activity. They avoid what really needs to be done by focusing on menial tasks.

The most important concept I got from the book was to look at my assets. This weekend, I will be attending the Rich Dad Poor Dad stock trading seminar. Hopefully there I will learn how to do a better job of managing my stock portfolio. My son and I have started looking at rental property and I am always looking for more ways to start businesses.

I still believe my greatest assets are my skills and experience. I hope to be able to share those through my web site and classes that I plan to teach. I know I have a lot of knowledge that can be of benefit to others and I believe I can make a business out of sharing that knowledge with people who will benefit form it.

I have passed on my copy of Rich Dad Poor Dad to my older son. When he is done I have asked him to pass it to his younger brother. I hope our generation can be the one to break the cycle and they can become Rich Dads to their children.

Emotional Guidance System

Monday, August 3rd, 2009
Meditation

Meditation

I have been studying the work of Abraham as presented by Ester and Jerry Hicks. I have really learned a lot about how to actually apply the Law of Attraction to my life and how to help others do the same. I find that a lot of the success I had in improving workplace safety and process improvement was based on these principles even though I did not know them at the time.

One tool I am finding very useful is their emotional guidance system chart. The chart lists emotional states and shows which ones are higher or lower than others. The way it is used is to honestly evaluate where you are and look for an emotion that feels slightly better. The mistake I was making and the mistake I see many others make is trying to make too big a jump at one time. You can only move a couple of levels at at time either up or down. That is how the law of attraction works.

Here is the chart:
Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation
Passion
Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
Positive Expectation/Belief
Optimism
Hopefulness
Contentment
Boredom
Pessimism
Frustration/Impatience/Irritation
“Overwhelment”
Disappointment
Doubt
Worry
Blame
Discouragement
Anger
Revenge
Hatred/Rage
Jealousy
Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

From the book: Ask and It Is Given: Learning to Manifest Your Desires

This weekend I made an assessment of my emotions and found that I was at the level of Frustration, Impatience, Irritation in several areas.

I have been trying to make too big a jump to get straight to joy in these areas. So I decided to look at pessimism. That was easy as I quickly thought that this stuff must not be working.

Then I made the deliberate push to get to boredom. I have instinctively moved to boredom in the past but I have resisted it as I confused it with depression which has a much lower vibration. When I saw that boredom was higher than pessimism, I decided to hang out there for a while and stabilize.

So I can calmly state that I am bored without complaining. Maybe I am already moving to contentment without even realizing it.

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